My Friend Is Getting A Divorce. What Can I Do Or Say To Help Her?

Although your friend is female my answers are equally helpful to a man.

1. Give him/her the opportunity to talk. Often, in an effort to be helpful, we ourselves talk too much.
2. Listen when he/she talks. As I said, in an effort to be helpful, we ourselves talk too much.
3. Don’t judge or criticize what the person is saying. This is not the time to make constructive suggestions!!!
4. Allow them to express feelings/allow them to feel feelings.
5. Tell them about your own experiences, if you have divorced yourself, so that they  don’t feel alone.
6.  Be helpful- Life’s everyday chores and responsibilities feel overwhelming to someone getting divorced. A helping hand is really appreciated.
7. Depending on the stage of your friend’s divorce, try to shed a positive bent on the situation. Many milestones, however unexpected or unwanted, have a silver lining.